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Full Contact Listening

Listening to children is a full body engagement. The ears are part of listening, but only a part. Listening to your child reminds you of your body, requires all your senses and takes place in your heart. You don’t seek to understand what is going on with your mind. You seek to feel with your child, hold space for your …

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If you can’t out-wrestle them, out-clown them

Last week I wrote about the benefits of wrestling with your kid. But kids grow up so much faster these days, at least, so it seems. And they get stronger. They get so strong that it’s hard to wrestle with them. And when your kid wants to go all out and use all their strength, wrestling is almost impossible. All …

Ash Wednesday and Lent

This is the kind of fast day I’m after: to break the chains of injustice, get rid of exploitation in the workplace, free the oppressed, cancel debts. What I’m interested in seeing you do is: sharing your food with the hungry, inviting the homeless poor into your homes, putting clothes on the shivering ill-clad, being available to your own families. …

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Five reasons to wrestle with your kids every day!

It’s inevitable. Whenever someone asks for my first piece of advice about raising their children, boys or girls, my answer is the same. Wrestle. And wrestle a lot. There are five main reasons why I recommend wrestling with your children. But first, note this. When you wrestle with your child, you should loose. Give them enough resistance to make them …


—James Baldwin, The Fire Next Time (22)

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The Parents’ Way Podcast

Progressive Politics, Spirituality, and Parenting Angela and I have started a new podcast. where we invite you to a conversation about progressive politics, spirituality and parenting. In this episode, Angela and Niels talk about their ideas for this podcast, and why we feel it is necessary. There is very little space for parents to discuss politics and spirituality especially when …

Whites are history

  —Michael Eric Dyson. (Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon to White America p.65)

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Give Life

Dear Kai, It seems that there are two different stories presented about being a man in our day and age. The first one we see in the media, on t.v. mostly and if you’re unfamiliar with it, the story is quite simple. The husband is at home a bumbling foo; and the other has to nag him every step of …