I love women

I Love Women

Dear Kai, Several years ago I did an exercise in a class where we drew a box on the black board and we called it the “Be a man” box. (I learned this exercise from the sociologist Michael Kimmel.) The idea is that the class identifies what they think of when they hear the phrase …

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Mother's Love

Remember your mother’s love

Dear Kai Today I want to start with an assumption. You tell me if I’m right or not. When you think about your parents, mother(s), father(s), members of your extended family, family friend and others who are close, do you think about their wealth, if they have any? Do you think about their jobs or …

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Splendour

Dear Kai, You know that poem by Robert Browning called Paracelsus? It was really the last few lines of the poem I want to focus on. … And to know Rather consists in opening out a way Whence the imprisoned splendour may escape, Than in effecting entry for a light Supposed to be without. All …

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Dear Kai

I am writing you today to address a question that you didn’t ask me. Yet, even though you didn’t ask me this question, I can feel that it weighs on you.
What is that question you ask?

What must I do to become a real man?

Navy SEAL masculinity and parenting

A couple of days ago I was listening to the Art of Manliness podcast. Brett McKay interviewed Eric Davis about his recent book: Raising Men: Lessons Navy SEALs Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons. The author comes from a completely different perspective than me. I grew up a pacifist. But we have …

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