My Recent Book

EnergeticBoysCover2Their Aggression Is Not Theirs: Energetic Boys at Play

In the Fall of 2015 I took 4 boys 4 days a week out of town into the wilds, as they called it. These chapters are reflections on that experience. I sent them out as daily emails and some have let me know that these were the favorite thing they go to read each day. That’s why I present these stories here for you. I had a lot of fun and I hope that these stories will give you joy too.

Here are a couple of responses to the book.

I have so enjoyed getting Niels emails over the last few months and am glad that he decided to put it in book format. This isn’t a traditional parenting book, with references to studies or an academic tone, it is more like raw and authentic meditations on what it is like to spend time with boys at this age.

Niels offered a free copy of the book to subscribers, but I am so appreciative of his work that I bought the kindle version. It is food for the parenting soul and has helped me to cultivate empathy for my six-year-old. I wouldn’t describe my little guy as an energetic boy (more of an introvert who loves legos) but the stories as still so relevant for me. Parenting through this phase is tough stuff and we need to find emotional nourishment wherever we can.


Niels is able to put down in words what we all know but won’t let ourselves fully act on. Here are some stories that make it so clear that our boys need our attention and understanding, that they need us to literally drop down to their level. I strongly recommend this book it made me laugh and cry; well worth the read.

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