Facing change
—James Baldwin
Power
I Love Women
Dear Kai, Several years ago I did an exercise in a class where we drew a box on the black board and we called it the “Be a man” box. (I learned this exercise from the sociologist Michael Kimmel.) The idea is that the class identifies what they think of when they hear the phrase …
Navy SEAL masculinity and parenting
A couple of days ago I was listening to the Art of Manliness podcast. Brett McKay interviewed Eric Davis about his recent book: Raising Men: Lessons Navy SEALs Learned from Their Training and Taught to Their Sons. The author comes from a completely different perspective than me. I grew up a pacifist. But we have …
The Paradox of Parenting
I think today I just want to name it. The paradox of parenting. I will have more to say about it later. Probably quite a bit more. But here is the paradox that you feel every day of your parenting life. Parenting is the most personal thing you have ever done and probably will ever …
I was once that aggressive boy
I was once that aggressive boy. I was. My mother tells me, that when I was in kindergarten, I’d come home sometimes and be so enraged that there was nothing that she could do to get me to talk, listen, engage in any way. The only thing she could do was to hand me an …